The Fear of Commitment

Summary: What is it that causes us to fear committing? Teal Swan suggests it arises from the desire to be free as commitment is felt to be confining. This may have its roots in a child hood where we were made to grow up too […]

Gratitude

It was a special evening this Monday, as Joseph returned to the group after being released on bail from the deportation detention centre. Thank you to all the people from the group who wrote letters of support for Joseph, and […]

Remembering to love ourselves

Summary: The inner tyrant of low-self worth can feel so true, but it is only an opinion in our mind. We can reflect: “thoughts are not facts”, or say to ourselves “it’s just a story” as we then hold our experience […]

Smiling Meditation

Last week I was writing about ‘following your bliss’, but what happens when we do not feel in touch with our bliss, when we feel low, sad or despondent? This morning I watched the video below by Prince Ea which addresses this. He speaks of […]

Follow Your Bliss

I was teaching a group of students this week about Buddhism and how Buddhism came to the West and was talking about this phrase: “follow your bliss”, which Joseph Campbell would always encourage his students to make central to their […]

Can Mindfulness Meditation Improve Memory?

Assistant Professor of Neuroscience and Psychology Erika Nyhus and Isabella Vakkur, have released the initial findings for their research into whether  mindfulness improves memory. Nyhus’s research project is focusing specifically on source memory, which is how we contextualize our memories. For instance, […]

Creating Yourself

Last week I wrote of how I wanted to take action to step into my life as a self-employed mindfulness teacher, rather than stand at the edge of the court prevaricating about jumping in. Perhaps it was writing this  that prompted me, […]

Deep listening – to oneself

Last week I was discussing deep listening to another as one sits silently attending to what one can hear them say rather than going into thinking about what to say in response. This last week I had an experience of […]

Deep listening

What is it like as we talk to another? What is our automatic way of being in a conversation? How often as we listen  is part of our attention on what we need to say next rather than fully taking […]

9 Year Anniversary

In April 2009 there was an article in Boyz about a new group for gay men that had recently started in London. It was the first in a new section they were launching called ‘passions’ where gay men shared what […]