Accepting a compliment – why is it so hard?

I was teaching a loving kindness session this week at the head office of a start up tech company. The people there are all very competent and young but they all shared one experience – the feeling that sending themselves […]

The four types of attachment: knowing our scripts

“Know Thyself” Last year I started the year writing about attachment styles and how we can learn to know ourselves and the dynamics within our relationships better though looking at our type. I was sent an article a few weeks […]

What Does Homosexuality Offer To The Tribe?

Each week in the gay men’s mindfulness class we finish with the Loving Kindness practice. Loving Kindness grows from a sense of our wish for our well being and happiness. To truly wish for one’s own happiness we need a deep sense of our own value and worth. […]

“Now is the knowing”

The quote from Ajhan Sumedho is very simple, but profound: “Yesterday is a memory. Tomorrow is unknown. Now is the knowing.” I was lucky to live with Ajahn Sumedho for three years and to listen to his teachings each week. […]

It’s just a story

Two weeks ago I looked at the bookings for the 8 week mindfulness course that was due to start in a fortnight: two people. Usually by that point the course would be over half booked, with the remaining few places going […]

Thoughts are not facts

Summary: The opinions we hold about ourselves and our possibilities in life can be like propaganda – opinions that are not based on truth but come to be believed through being repeated so often we come to think they must be true. Starting to reflect “thoughts are […]

Coming to centre: finding the still point in the chaos

When I was a junior monk my Abbot used to say that mindfulness training is like building a preasure cooker, a container, that can hold the intensity of the chaos that occurs within our mind and heart. Jon Kabbat Zinn, the founder of secular mindfulness […]