The 8 World Winds – Finding Peace Within Life’s Vicissitudes

Last week I introduced the 8 worldly winds as a topic. These are also referred to as the 8 vicissitudes, which refers to the experience of an alteration between opposite states. The ‘winds’ therefore describe this tendency of moving from a pleasant to an unpleasant experience […]

How To Stop Suffering – The 8 Worldly Winds

I’ve been talking with a friend who is on a course looking at a teaching of the Buddha’s called the ‘8 Worldly Winds’ and it gave me the thought for today’s essay. Buddhism loves lists! But this is a useful […]

Loving Yourself As A Whole By Embracing The Shadow

Healing Dysfunctional Patterns By Meeting Your Shadow  Here in the Northern hemisphere we recently passed the Winter solstice and the light is now returning. Our world is one where there is this constant interplay between light and dark. As the […]

Stress is OK – Changing Your Perspective On Stress

This week I watched a video by Kelly McGonigal that transformed my attitude to stress and teaching how to manage stress. The mindful attitude of ‘leaning in’ to a difficult emotion and bringing a curious attention to how it feels as a […]

Creating Intention In Our Day

I hope you are enjoying a peaceful few days wherever you are. Due to the restrictions in movement in the UK and the likelihood that many people will be at home alone this Christmas season I’m running a session this […]

Minority stress and gay men

I was 9 years old when I first registered that the world didn’t like me. Not for anything I had done, but because of something I could not change and had no choice over. It should have been a fun evening, watching […]

Self-care through kind touch

Over this period of Covid induced restrictions one of the recurring themes on a Monday night is people feeling isolated, lonely and in need of physical contact. We are mammals and social creatures. Our animal body needs touch and nurturing. Whilst […]

The Fear of Commitment

Summary: What is it that causes us to fear committing? Teal Swan suggests it arises from the desire to be free as commitment is felt to be confining. This may have its roots in a child hood where we were made to grow up too […]