“Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional”

In this weeks essay I return to a theme I’ve covered before, but it’s so central to the practice that it’s worth repeating. In this week’s  class I’ll be taking about the teaching of ‘the two arrows’. The first arrow is the initial cause of […]

Suicide – finding ways to bear the pain

As I looked at the news headlines yesterday two papers reported different cases of young men who had killed themselves. This is not a topic we may find easy to address  but it is the silence that makes it so difficult, as those who have these thoughts […]

The Fear of Inadequacy

Going from a belief “I am not good enough”….to “I am enough” Yesterday I went a networking event at Hammersmith and Fulham Town Hall. As I approached the building I noticed a sense of fear and an urge to run […]

Ill-will, the second hindrance

              The Buddha taught that ill-will is a cause of ongoing unhappiness.  The Dhammapada which I quoted form last week goes on to say this about ill-will: The Buddha was always consistent on this point, […]

Effective Communication

The last three essays have been a summary of the information about attachment models in adult relationships from the book Attached. In this essay I’ll continue to explore this dynamic. To summarise the three types of attachment: 1. Anxious people are often preoccupied with […]

Identifying the different types of critical self-talk

Over the last month I’ve been reading ‘Loving Ourselves’, the Gay and Lesbian Guide to Self-Esteem, by Kimeron N Hardin. It has been fascinating and the latest chapter has been really helpful in identifying negative thinking patterns and how to […]