Feeling Alone in a Crowd

Some find it easy to connect, socialise, reach out. For others social interaction can feel like a foreign language – a place where we stumble through unfamiliar phrases and don’t fully know how to express what we wish to say. […]

Thoughts are not facts

Summary: The opinions we hold about ourselves and our possibilities in life can be like propaganda – opinions that are not based on truth but come to be believed through being repeated so often we come to think they must be true. Starting to reflect “thoughts are […]

Deep listening – to oneself

Last week I was discussing deep listening to another as one sits silently attending to what one can hear them say rather than going into thinking about what to say in response. This last week I had an experience of […]

Thoughts are not facts

Before Christmas I met a man at a party. Shortly after we started talking a man came up and was introduced as his boyfriend. I was a little disappointed as I had found him attractive, but that was that. We […]

The Fear of Inadequacy

Going from a belief “I am not good enough”….to “I am enough” Yesterday I went a networking event at Hammersmith and Fulham Town Hall. As I approached the building I noticed a sense of fear and an urge to run […]

Tools for Self-Love

As we meditate it can sometimes feel as if things are getting worse rather than more peaceful. This is not because meditation makes us more uptight or anxious, but because we start to tune in more quickly to the worried thoughts […]

Identifying the different types of critical self-talk

Over the last month I’ve been reading ‘Loving Ourselves’, the Gay and Lesbian Guide to Self-Esteem, by Kimeron N Hardin. It has been fascinating and the latest chapter has been really helpful in identifying negative thinking patterns and how to […]