A Love Letter to Yourself

Last week I was talking of the tendency a lot of us can have of feeling that we are not good enough, that we may be seen through as being an ‘imposter’. This week we turn instead to how we […]

Trusting yourself…. versus the imposter syndrome

Last week I was at a training weekend for mindfulness practitioners. It was the second weekend we were meeting after our first session two months previously. I was one of 21 people there studying mindfulness and compassion for teachers. We started […]

Self Worth rather than self-flagellation

We may not have Patsy’s degree of self-belief but as we enter the New Year do we do so with a sense of needing to improve or of appreciating who we are? Can we indeed say “I am fabulous!” Perhaps we […]

Tone of our Inner Talk

Last week I discussed the drive system and how to connect more with the soothing system and caring for your self at a time of stress. One of the key things in the Radical Self Care Course I’m currently on is to […]

Self-care at times of stress and difficulty

The 8 week radical self care course I’m currently a participant on has introduced this model of the three systems we switch between. Drive system: the urge to push forward, to explore, to find resources. Threat system: to detect danger […]

Why do we find it so hard to accept a compliment?

Have you ever noticed a tendency in yourself or others to feel uncomfortable in receiving a compliment? This can play out in different ways: 1. Assumed criticism: Someone tells you you look great and rather than receiving this as appreciation you think […]

Feeling Alone in a Crowd

Some find it easy to connect, socialise, reach out. For others social interaction can feel like a foreign language – a place where we stumble through unfamiliar phrases and don’t fully know how to express what we wish to say. […]