Trusting yourself…. versus the imposter syndrome

Last week I was at a training weekend for mindfulness practitioners. It was the second weekend we were meeting after our first session two months previously. I was one of 21 people there studying mindfulness and compassion for teachers. We started […]

Self Worth rather than self-flagellation

We may not have Patsy’s degree of self-belief but as we enter the New Year do we do so with a sense of needing to improve or of appreciating who we are? Can we indeed say “I am fabulous!” Perhaps we […]

Tone of our Inner Talk

Last week I discussed the drive system and how to connect more with the soothing system and caring for your self at a time of stress. One of the key things in the Radical Self Care Course I’m currently on is to […]

Self-care at times of stress and difficulty

The 8 week radical self care course I’m currently a participant on has introduced this model of the three systems we switch between. Drive system: the urge to push forward, to explore, to find resources. Threat system: to detect danger […]

Why do we find it so hard to accept a compliment?

Have you ever noticed a tendency in yourself or others to feel uncomfortable in receiving a compliment? This can play out in different ways: 1. Assumed criticism: Someone tells you you look great and rather than receiving this as appreciation you think […]

Feeling Alone in a Crowd

Some find it easy to connect, socialise, reach out. For others social interaction can feel like a foreign language – a place where we stumble through unfamiliar phrases and don’t fully know how to express what we wish to say. […]

Thoughts are not facts

Summary: The opinions we hold about ourselves and our possibilities in life can be like propaganda – opinions that are not based on truth but come to be believed through being repeated so often we come to think they must be true. Starting to reflect “thoughts are […]