Self Worth rather than self-flagellation

We may not have Patsy’s degree of self-belief but as we enter the New Year do we do so with a sense of needing to improve or of appreciating who we are? Can we indeed say “I am fabulous!” Perhaps we […]

New Year….but not necessarily a New Me

It’s a familiar experience…as we enter New Year we write up a blue print for our ideal vision of ourselves. We resolve to eliminate all of our unhealthy habits, initiate new healthy ones and enter a Nirvana of sobriety, fitness […]

Tone of our Inner Talk

Last week I discussed the drive system and how to connect more with the soothing system and caring for your self at a time of stress. One of the key things in the Radical Self Care Course I’m currently on is to […]

Self-care at times of stress and difficulty

The 8 week radical self care course I’m currently a participant on has introduced this model of the three systems we switch between. Drive system: the urge to push forward, to explore, to find resources. Threat system: to detect danger […]

Why do we find it so hard to accept a compliment?

Have you ever noticed a tendency in yourself or others to feel uncomfortable in receiving a compliment? This can play out in different ways: 1. Assumed criticism: Someone tells you you look great and rather than receiving this as appreciation you think […]

Being A Friend to Yourself

I’ve recently been noticing a lot of anxiety in my response to having met a man at a Summer festival I was at a few weeks ago. One of the reasons I don’t date is that it always takes me […]

From Shame to Self-Love

I was talking with Kai this week about the Solo Tantra workshop that’s coming up on the 11/12th May and it helped to clarify for me why I want to take part in this and why I want to share this […]

Feeling Alone in a Crowd

Some find it easy to connect, socialise, reach out. For others social interaction can feel like a foreign language – a place where we stumble through unfamiliar phrases and don’t fully know how to express what we wish to say. […]