From Shame to Self-Love
I was talking with Kai this week about the Solo Tantra workshop that’s coming up on the 11/12th May and it helped to clarify for me why I want to take part in this and why I want to share this […]
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Feeling Alone in a Crowd
Some find it easy to connect, socialise, reach out. For others social interaction can feel like a foreign language – a place where we stumble through unfamiliar phrases and don’t fully know how to express what we wish to say. […]
Accepting a compliment – why is it so hard?
I was teaching a loving kindness session this week at the head office of a start up tech company. The people there are all very competent and young but they all shared one experience – the feeling that sending themselves […]
The 4 ‘Attachment Styles,’ and How They Sabotage Your Work-Life Balance
Last week I sent an outline of the four attachment styles and how they play out in relationships. This week’s email looks at how these same attachment styles play out at work. The following is an article from the New […]
Loving who we are – gay men’s history of relevance to the family and society
A few weeks ago I wrote about the video I had seen where a father talked of his experience of his son coming out to him and how this led to him looking at what his son brought to his family and by extension what […]
What Does Homosexuality Offer To The Tribe?
Each week in the gay men’s mindfulness class we finish with the Loving Kindness practice. Loving Kindness grows from a sense of our wish for our well being and happiness. To truly wish for one’s own happiness we need a deep sense of our own value and worth. […]
The Fear of Commitment
Summary: What is it that causes us to fear committing? Teal Swan suggests it arises from the desire to be free as commitment is felt to be confining. This may have its roots in a child hood where we were made to grow up too […]
Finding Rest in Awareness
This weekend I’m on a workshop with Jeff Foster. It has been lovely to listen to his teachings. His whole emphasis is on coming into this moment. He uses a metaphor of life being like a film, where we can have […]
Follow Your Bliss
I was teaching a group of students this week about Buddhism and how Buddhism came to the West and was talking about this phrase: “follow your bliss”, which Joseph Campbell would always encourage his students to make central to their […]
Thoughts are not facts
Before Christmas I met a man at a party. Shortly after we started talking a man came up and was introduced as his boyfriend. I was a little disappointed as I had found him attractive, but that was that. We […]