Tone of our Inner Talk

Last week I discussed the drive system and how to connect more with the soothing system and caring for your self at a time of stress. One of the key things in the Radical Self Care Course I’m currently on is to […]

The 8 week radical self care course I’m currently a participant on has introduced this model of the three systems we switch between. Drive system: the urge to push forward, to explore, to find resources. Threat system: to detect danger […]

Have you ever noticed a tendency in yourself or others to feel uncomfortable in receiving a compliment? This can play out in different ways: 1. Assumed criticism: Someone tells you you look great and rather than receiving this as appreciation you think […]

I often say when talking about the Loving Kindness practice that if I were to talk to my friends as I talk to myself I soon would not have many friends. Think for a moment of the last time you made […]

I’ve recently been noticing a lot of anxiety in my response to having met a man at a Summer festival I was at a few weeks ago. One of the reasons I don’t date is that it always takes me […]

I was talking with Kai this week about the Solo Tantra workshop that’s coming up on the 11/12th May and it helped to clarify for me why I want to take part in this and why I want to share this […]

Last week I sent an outline of the four attachment styles and how they play out in relationships. This week’s email looks at how these same attachment styles play out at work. The following is an article from the New […]

“Know Thyself” Last year I started the year writing about attachment styles and how we can learn to know ourselves and the dynamics within our relationships better though looking at our type. I was sent an article a few weeks […]

Each week in the gay men’s mindfulness class we finish with the Loving Kindness practice. Loving Kindness grows from a sense of our wish for our well being and happiness. To truly wish for one’s own happiness we need a deep sense of our own value and worth. […]

Summary: The opinions we hold about ourselves and our possibilities in life can be like propaganda – opinions that are not based on truth but come to be believed through being repeated so often we come to think they must be true. Starting to reflect “thoughts are […]